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February 22, 2019

Becoming Cliterate And How Lesfic Can Lead The Way

The Lesbian Review Podcast

Sheena is joined by Karelia Stetz-Waters today to talk about how important well written sex is for f/f books especially in an age of unhappy and sexually frustrated young people.

In this episode:

  • Becoming Cliterate - what it is and where it comes from
  • Studies about orgasms and the importance of the clitoris
  • Why great sex is important in lesbian fiction
  • How Karelia Stetz-Waters wants to educate mainstream romance writers
  • One of the worst sex scenes ever
  • Fading to grey vs graphic sex
  • The struggle for the Gen X
  • The vocabulary gap between generations
  • Becoming more diverse in our language
  • Plus hear Karelia Stetz-Waters read a sex scene from her novel Worth The Wait


In this podcast we talk about these books

Becoming Cliterate by Dr Laurie Mintz

Publisher: Harper Audio

On audio: Yes


We've been thinking about sex all wrong. Mainstream media, movies, and porn have taught us that sex = penis + vagina, and everything else is just secondary. Standard penetration is how men most reliably achieve orgasm. The problem is, women don't orgasm this way. We've separated our most reliable route to orgasm - clitoral stimulation - from how we feel we should orgasm - penetration. As a result we've created a pleasure gap between women and men:

  • 50 percent of 18- to 35-year-old women say they have trouble reaching orgasm with a partner
  • 64 percent of women versus 91 percent of men said they had an orgasm at their last sexual encounter
  • 55 percent of men versus 4 percent of women say they usually reach orgasm during first-time hookup sex

In Becoming Cliterate, psychology professor and human sexuality expert Dr. Laurie Mintz exposes the broader cultural problem that's perpetuating this gap and what we can do about it. Pulling together evidence from biology, sociology, linguistics, and sex therapy into one comprehensive, accessible, and prescriptive book, Becoming Cliterate features:

  • Cultural and historical analysis of female orgasm (spoiler: the problem's been going on for ages)
  • An anatomy section (it's all custom under the hood)
  • Proven techniques for cliterate sex (it starts with training the sex organ between your ears)
  • A comprehensive final chapter for men (because you don't have to have a clitoris to be cliterate)

By dispelling the lies, misunderstandings, and myths that have been holding us back, Becoming Cliterate tackles both personal and political problems and replaces them with updated outlooks and practical skills needed to change our collective perspective on sex. It's time to finally inform women and men on how to have satisfying experiences in bed that benefit both parties.

The revolution is cuming - and Becoming Cliterate offers a radical, simple solution to progress and pleasure for all.


Get the audio/book on Amazon here ->

(this link works for Amazon US, UK, Canada, Italy and Germany)


Worth The Wait by Karelia Stetz-Waters

Publisher Forever Yours

On audio: no


A second chance at first love . . .

For fifteen years, Avery Crown tried to forget her best friend Merritt Lessing. The late nights studying, the whispered confidences, and the little touches that never turned into something more. Unfortunately, her efforts have not been as successful as her TV career as the queen of home renovation. So when she runs into Merritt at their high school reunion, Avery asks for one night with the woman she's always wanted . . .

Merritt spent high school pining after Avery, but never made a move-their friendship meant too much. The one time it seemed things might change, Avery chose her budding career. So Merritt did the same, throwing herself into her remodeling business. Now Avery's back, and while Merritt still hasn't forgiven her for walking away the first time, they can't keep their hands off each other. But when their professional paths cross, and it seems like Avery is choosing her career once again, Merritt will have to decide if she's willing to let go of the past and give herself a second chance with her first love.


Get the book on Amazon here ->

(this link works for Amazon US, UK, Canada, Italy and Germany)


Something True by Karelia Stetz-Waters

Publisher Forever Yours

On audio: no


Don't miss Karelia's newest release in the Out in Portland series, Worth the Wait, available this summer!

Tate Grafton has a tough exterior, but underneath she's kind, caring, and fiercely loyal. That's why she first started working at Out in Portland Coffee - it was her way of repaying the shop's owner for taking her in as a homeless teenager. Nine years later, the coffee shop is floundering and Tate feels like she's letting life pass her by . . . until she shares an unforgettable night with a beautiful stranger. When the mysterious woman disappears the next morning, Tate doesn't even know her name.

Laura Enfield was supposed to be in Portland for only a few days - just long enough to oversee a simple business deal before joining her conservative father on his political campaign. But when the closeted Laura romances an employee of the coffee shop her company is shutting down, things get suddenly complicated. Now, the lies she's told for years are beginning to unravel, and her biggest secret is about to be exposed. Laura can't stop thinking about the barista with the soulful eyes, but after a lifetime of deception, can she finally embrace something true?


Get the book on Amazon here ->

(this link works for Amazon US, UK, Canada, Italy and Germany)



Karelia Stetz-Waters suggests that if would really like to become cliterate (and watch one of the sexiest pieces of media I've ever seen) tcheck out the OMGYes project. It is well worth the $40 USD it costs to view this content. 



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About Karelia Stetz-Waters

Karelia Stetz-Waters is a contemporary lesbian writer. She is passionate about providing happy endings and a vision of redemptive love for readers of all orientations. Her novels include For Good, Something True, The Admirer, The Purveyor, and Lambda Literary Award and Golden Crown Literary Society finalist Forgive Me If I’ve Told You This Before.  Karelia teaches English and writing at Linn-Benton Community College, where her students include everyone from drag queens, to farm boys, to Sudanese refugees. They all tell stories of passion and perseverance and inspire her to write characters that are real and diverse.  

Karelia has a BA in comparative literature from Smith College and an MA in English literature from the University of Oregon. She also teaches writing for the Gold Crown Literary Society Writing Academy, a non-profit organization that seeks to promote and strengthen lesbian fiction.

 She is married to her beloved wife of 19 years and lives with her a friendly cat and a breed of dog never-before-seen: the King Pug Spuglette (a cross between a Cavalier King Charles Spaniel and a pug).

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